DO JERKS REALLY GET ALL THE GIRLS?
It's the same old , time tested saying. 'Why do Jerks get all the girls'. Every guy has at one point in his life or another made this same assumption. It's the same act as before. Nice guy goes up to a hot girl and tires to spark a conversation. He awkwardly asks for her name and ask's how she's doing. As has happened so many times before, the conversation lags, the girl becomes disengaged and always has a reason to stop him dead in his tracks or walk away. He stands there defeated and deflated. Later he and his buddies over a few beers ask the same question and come to the same result.
"Why didn't I pick her up? Obviously it's cause she's hot and only dates Jerks".
Or.
"Well she did date (Enter name of Jerk Here) and she was obsessed with him. She Like Assholes"
Or
"Dude, you where to nice, you know hot chicks only like dicks"
So is it really true? If you aren't the Jerk or Asshole in the world, are you doomed to mediocrity?
Simple answer is NO. N.O.
IT'S NOT ABOUT THE JERK ITS ABOUT HIS CONFIDENCE
Good guys out there get plenty of hot woman. I've been one of them (although my days of trying to just pick up are over). The simple fact is that a Jerk gets a better response from women and high quality of woman (in physical attractiveness) because of one simple word. CONFIDENCE.
Confidence has been and always will be one of the greatest and most attractive features either a man or a woman can have. The best part about it is that you do not have to be out of character to be confident. There is no need to be someone else around a woman to be able to spark interest in her. You must be your self but with confidence and faith in your self.
You may not believe this now, but there is a special bread of man I like to call the Confident Gentleman. The confident Gentleman (CG) is not the Jerk on the street or the shy nice guy slouching over to speak to a beautiful woman. The CG is respectable, funny, charming and most importantly assured of himself. This is the man that all nice guys should try to become. There are several avenues that you can use to build this confidence and going into detail and depth in one post would simply take far to long.
However, here is one simple tip. Start to identify your strengths and focus on them. Everyone has a strength or great part of their personality or being. My suggestion is ask a trusted confident what they think are your "Good qualities". You will be surprised at what some people say. After which you need to begin to focus that as a confidence builder. If you are such a 'funny guy', then remind yourself that before going out to the singles seen or before going up to a beautiful woman. Never try to be what your not. If you're not smooth but can make a room bust into laughter, then thats your niche. Work with it
BEING CONFIDENT DOESNT MEAN 100% RATE
Even when having full confidence, remember that does not guarantee a 100% pick up rate. You will not win all the time when trying to seduce a beautiful woman or break the ice. However, your chances will increase dramatically.
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